okay guys bUT:
- courf with hearing aids. little courfeyrac, ten years old, discovering Hawkeye comics. courf basing his entire personality off of clint barton. courf not letting his disability define him. courf using sign language. courf lipreading. courf standing by as translator during enjolras’ rallies because people need to know what this man is saying, even if they can’t hear it.
- amputee bossuet who did two tours in afgahnistan and came back without his left leg and blind from tear gas, but towing a paramedic boyfriend home to his girlfriend musichetta. (“can we keep him? please?”) they get a seeing-eye guide dog named ‘nymeria’ and she’s the sweetest golden retriever you ever did see. (joly is allergic to her, but he doesn’t care. she brings the smile back to bossuet’s face.)
- electively mute jehan that refuses to speak, and was taught sign language by courf. agender asexual aromantic jehan that spent so many years thinking they were broken before flipping off the world and pirouetting out.
- partially paralysed grantaire that used to be a professional ballet dancer. ‘the young misha,’ the papers called him, hailed him as the ‘young nureyev’. he got into an accident, drunk driving, and has been confined to a wheelchair for four years. he can’t stand classical music anymore. he has a drinking game called ‘take a shot every time you see someone walk’ because he’s so fucking angry that he could have had everything, and now he doesn’t even have footsteps.
- transgender poc feuilly that has to put up with so much social stigma. he can barely hold down a job anymore, what with people finding out his name, his background, his sexuality.
People who think that the biphobia in the last episode of HTGAWM can be reduced to Michaela asking Aiden “are you gay?” instead of “are you bi?” have a somewhat superficial understanding of bi erasure IMO. It doesn’t make sense to pin everything on Michaela… except that this functions to give people a pass on misogynoir since now there’s a “reason” to dislike Michaela and call her a bitch. Black fans have already been commenting on this. If you’ve come away from this episode completely accepting of Connor but hating on Michaela, you really need to examine your reaction there and look at what’s causing that double standard.
This whole subplot is an interpretation of bi sexuality. It’s an interpretation that invalidates and casts suspicion on bi sexuality and same-gender desire in general. Men who have had relations with men but who are now with women are treated narratively like a ticking time bomb. The specter of “homosexuality” is something that threatens and destabilizes man/woman relationships. This is how Connor treats Aiden’s sexuality: he capitalizes on the fact that same-gender behavior is threatening in order to hurt Michaela and sabotage Aiden’s relationship - for no real reason except that he’s a spiteful person! And Michaela responds to his hints by feeling threatened and first attempting to ignore/silence this information and then eventually confronting Aiden.
That two-sided dynamic between Connor and Michaela (which Connor initiates and brings to a head) is what drives the whole subplot, with the end result being that Aiden’s sexual history destabilizes his relationship. The narrative use of past same-gender behavior/desire as a threat to a man/woman relationship is homophobic and specifically biphobic. Looking only at Michaela’s questioning at the end seems short-sighted.
Of course no room is given in the narrative for a stable bi sexuality to exist, because it interprets (bi men’s) same-gender desire as inherently destabilizing. It’s something that needs to be defused and rejected: same-gender desire is just a phase, the result of being a stupid, horny teenager [note how it is purely sex-driven], and must be - and is - completely denied in order for a man/woman relationship to be stable. Otherwise, how could the man ever stay fulfilled and invested in his relationship with a woman? Even with Aiden’s disavowal of any same-gender desire, doubts may still linger because he
has been infected with teh gaymay still be “deceiving” his fiancee even accidentally - who’s to say he’s not still repressing his true feelings?
Again, these narrative assumptions/interpretations are both biphobic and homophobic. A lot of these stereotypes also relate to gay sexuality (it’s just a phase, purely sexual, needs to be disavowed in favor of a man/woman relationships but remains suspect), because the common factor here is same-gender desire.
Acting like the only problem is Michaela not asking Aiden if he’s bi or assuming that he’s gay seems to miss the point. Why would the writers’ have made bi sexuality a valid consideration here? This whole narrative would have fallen apart. The “threat of same-gender desire” device doesn’t work if anyone here understands bi sexuality. Which isn’t to “excuse” the narrative but to say it never should have taken place. It is 2014 and there is no reason we can’t have a straight woman marrying a comfortably out bi man, where sexuality is something that is openly discussed in the relationship. They still could have revealed that Connor had previously slept with Aiden without it being something that caused strain on Michaela’s relationships.
It’s a huge disservice to Michaela’s character to write her as a mouthpiece for this. And it’s misogynoiristic to use this shitty subplot as an excuse to write off her character, especially if we’re still stanning for Connor despite his spiteful, manipulative, and biphobic actions.
Remember that intimate conversation you had with your son? The one where you said, “I love you and I need you to know that no matter how a woman dresses or acts, it is not an invitation to cat call, taunt, harass or assault her”?
Or when you told your son, “A woman’s virginity isn’t a prize and sleeping with a woman doesn’t earn you a point”?
How about the heart-to-heart where you lovingly conferred the legal knowledge that “a woman doesn’t have to be fighting you and you don’t have to be pinning her down for it to be RAPE. Intoxication means she can’t legally consent, NOT that she’s an easy score.”
Or maybe you recall sharing my personal favorite, “Your sexual experiences don’t dictate your worth just like a woman’s sexual experiences don’t dictate hers.”
Last but not least, do you remember calling your son out when you discovered he was using the word “slut” liberally? Or when you overheard him talking about some girl from school as if she were more of a conquest than a person?
I want you to consider these conversations and then ask yourself why you don’t remember them. The likely reason is because you didn’t have them. In fact, most parents haven’t had them."
What’s scary is that you KNOW the majority of young men receive the OPPOSITE kinds of messages both from their parents and the culture around them. And then people are surprised or defensive when a so-called “good” guy takes advantage of a women. And excuses are made to make her at fault, rather than blaming the perpetrator and all those who taught him for his entire life that what he did wasn’t really wrong. Rape culture is a cycle, and education like that shown above is what can help break it down. (via misandry-mermaid)
Because my cousin shared 3 rape experiences she had
And on all three occasions
She was wearing sweats and was brutally beaten
So there goes your excuse
That my tight dress was asking for it
It might have escaped your attention,
But I don’t wake up in the mornings,
And put on a skirt thinking,
Will this get me raped?
I don’t put on a tank top hoping,
Maybe this one will.
Because in school, they teach us that our bodies are offensive.
They pull us from classrooms
Demanding if we have longer shorts,
Or even a sweater,
Reminding us that the boys are distracted,
That the boys go wild for a peeking shoulder,
Or the sight of a sun burned thigh,
Because their education is more important than ours.
Because white men in pressed suits,
Expensive watches hanging from their wrists,
Red faces glinting with arrogance,
Have more say over my body than I do.
Because those same men,
Quoting the Bible and fake statistics,
Have never shed blood,
As a twisted sacrifice for being a woman.
Because those same men,
Have never walked the streets,
Fearing for their lives,
Clinging to keys between their fingers like a lifeline
With pepper spray in their bags,
Ready for someone to feel entitled to their body.
Because when a man says no to us,
It is a fault in OUR character.
It is because we are not
Thin, tan, or perky enough for HIM.
Because when WE say no to a man,
Its still a fault in OUR character,
We are the cold, ruthless bitch,
Saying no to the nice guy,
Who offered to buy us a drink,
And Who complimented our hair.
Because a UCSB entitled nine-teen year old boy,
Can record a video
Of his plans to shoot down all the
“Blond bimbos who denied him his right,”
And then do so,
Only to have his actions excused by the media,
Claiming he was depressed,
Instead of admitting that male entitlement is dangerous.
Because I am done being silenced
And I am done being polite.
I am done sitting by
As a country hypocritically cries
Equality and justice
But doesn’t have equal pay
Lets men make decisions for a woman’s body
And blames the victim for the actions of a rapist.
Because our NO won’t be enough one day.
Because I wasn’t asking for it.
Because “Boys Will Be Boys,” is still an excuse
Because “Not All Men Are Like That,” is still a defense.
Because enough blood has been spilled.
Because I am sixteen years old, and I am so afraid, when I shouldn’t have to be."
This poem was inspired by actual tweets from the #YesAllWomen trend on twitter. X
- what she says: one true pairing!
- what she means: I have fifty of these and it's not stopping
i am firmly pro selfie. i am firmly pro millennial. i am firmly pro any topic or issue that gets baby boomers to write pissed off articles in salon or slate or the guardian about how the millennial generation is fucked up and narcissistic and lazy and will never be taken seriously by established powers.
#you just gave the reasons#they portray healthy relationships#mutual respect#and all that#we can’t teach young women that they should aspire to that in a relationship now can we#where would that leave most men#not sorry for the snark (x)
I just realized that in POA not only does Snape teach about werewolves because he hopes someone notices Lupin’s lyncanthropy, but he also takes away Remus’ opportunity to teach about them as they should be, not as monsters, but as afflicted people.
#he took away lupin’s right to represent himself (via deadbeatrice)